January is National Breakup Month
January 03, 2007
Contributing Writer: Lisa Daily
The holidays are over and just when you thought it was safe to put down the eggnog, you might find yourself smack in the middle of one of those "We Have To Talk" talks.
While November and December are generally unlikely months for breakups (who wants to be the jerk who ruined Thanksgiving?), January is usually the biggest month of all.
Why? For some, it feels like the first chance to make a clean break after the holidays (and the last chance before Valentine's Day rolls around.) And many men say they just don't want to be on the hook for the required Valentine's Day gift/flower arrangement/romantic dinner for a girl they're not really that crazy about. For others, the breakup is part of the New Year’s resolution value package that includes getting a better job, losing the love handles, and embarking on a mission to find true love.
How do you know if your sweetie is about to lower the boom? Check below for some of the warning signs your relationship might be over soon.
6 Signs You Might Be Heading for a Breakup:
She's no longer interested in sex, or worse, she's recently learned some new tricks
A dramatic change in sexual behavior can mean two things: Either your sweetie is trying to avoid any situation where she might have to express emotion or attachment to you, or she's getting it somewhere else. Old dogs only learn new tricks if someone is teaching them.
This isn't about Toilet Paper! This is about Life!
If he's picking silly fights, or there's an unusual increase in emotional distance, you've got bad news. If your guy or girl is picking stupid fights all the time, they may be trying to get you to make the first move.
He says, "I need some space" or "I think we should see other people."
By telling you he wants to see other people, he's not technically breaking up with you (so no big crying scene to endure) but he's given himself a way out. Of course, the second he gets a little distance, he's going to make a run for it.
She gives you that little pat on the back.
Watch out for this one. A person who gives you a hug while patting you on the back is indicating that they are uncomfortable with what they're doing. The bigger the pat, the more discomfort they feel. Could be the kiss in front of Aunt Mildred. Could be garlic breath. Could be you.
She buys a pre-paid cell phone or pager.
This is a really bad sign. Private investigators everywhere will tell you the pager purchase is a sign of impending heartbreak. Sure, it could be for work, but more likely, she's using it to get a head start on her post-you life.
He used to be a blue jeans kind of guy, and suddenly he's obsessed with Armani.
A person who is about to leave (or is cheating) will take greater care with his or appearance - updating his wardrobe, losing weight, working out and even changing cologne.
The good new is that if you make through to Valentine's Day, you're on the road to a long-term relationship. And if you don't? Well, just consider yourself lucky: you'll have lots of company. So, wipe away those tears, update your profile, and start your own mission to find true love. This could be your year.
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