First Date Tips
January 28, 2005
By Jennifer Klein, Dateable.com
Dating can be tough and first dates can be painful. So what are you to do? Here is a list of dating tips to start the year out right!
- Meet your date out and drive yourself. If you want to bail out early, you won't be trapped. Also, when you have your own car. If things work out, you won't have any worries about inviting your date in or not. This helps protect you from your own impulses, because what's worse then "will he respect me in the morning?" is "How much will I hate myself when I wake up?." Also when you have your own car, no need to worry about safety, your date does not know where you live. This protects you from a date turned bad turning in to a stalking nightmare.
- Keep the date simple. You're nervous enough without making a big show, plus you don't want to lock yourself in to an evening you won't enjoy.
- Men, end the date first. You will make yourself stand out.
- Women, don't wear anything low cut or short. It sounds like an old cliché but your first date knows very little about the woman you are. He will take you at face value and you don't want to give the wrong impression.
- A friend of mine went out for dinner on a blind date. She is a very conservative woman, who really likes to take her time in relationships. All of us who know her know this about her. Her date didn't. She went out on the date wearing a sexy low cut cocktail dress. They went to dinner, had a wonderful evening, and when he walked her to her door, he pounced on her! She was of course surprised and upset, but her date didn't know her, he just took her at face value.
- Wear clothing that you are comfortable and confident in. First dates are uncomfortable enough without a tight belt biting you around the waist.
- Men, be specific about where you are going. This will make the date more comfortable, and will prevent her from wearing a cocktail dress when you are taking her bowling.
- Ask about your date. Each of us knows we are the most interesting subject :) But the most interesting conversationalists are people who ask about others. Great light topics are work, hobbies, sports, kids (if they have any). If you are really stuck for topics to talk about, and questions to ask, on the Dateable.com site, in our advice corner, under romance, single life, we have a great article by Penelope Frohart author of "The Book of Fabulous Questions" called "What do I talk about on a date?." She offers some great advice. http://dateable.com/advicecorner/
- Easy on the perfume. You want to knock his socks off, but you don't want to knock him out!
- Don't forget to use mouthwash before you go out.
- Don't order sloppy food. If you are not paying for what you order, try to stay in the middle of the menu.
- Keep the conversation light! Don't talk or ask about old boyfriends, girlfriends, or ex-spouse. This is a first date, not a therapy session.
- Find out about your dates eating habits before you plan the evening. Make sure you choose a place where they will be able to find something to eat.
- Be attentive! There is nothing worse then a date peering over your shoulder making you feel as if they are looking for something better.
- If you are not paying be considerate of what you order. Try to stay in the middle of the menu.
- And last, but not least, have fun and be yourself!
© Dateable.com LLC
(Repost; originally posted on April 10, 2002.)
==============================
Dateable.com is an exciting online community for singles, couples and romance lovers. Dateable.com has romantic resources, advice, poetry, greeting cards, and more. Dateable.com also features specialty matchmaking services. Whether you are looking for a soulmate or a playmate, visit http://dateable.com
==============================
Recently in Ordinary Lives:
8 Wedding Favor Ideas For a Valentine Wedding
Wedding favors are small, inexpensive gifts or souvenirs that you present to your guests as a way of saying "thank-you for attending our wedding celebration". It has become customary to give something in return to your guests that they can keep as a memory of your special day...
Six Valentine's Day Wedding Favor Ideas
Valentine's Day is synonymous with romance and is a natural choice for your wedding as you celebrate the greatest romance of your life. Hearts, roses, chocolate – even love itself - are all associated with Valentine's Day, and the choice for Valentine's wedding favors is almost limitless...
The Valentine's Day Challenge
What is the Valentine's Day Challenge? Simply put, make every day of your life Valentine's Day. Work on communicating with your partner. Learn how to be more loving and affectionate. Pay attention to your mate EVERY day...
Valentine's Day Wedding Ideas
Valentine's Day is synonymous with romance and if you've chosen this day to marry, you must be a truly romantic soul. Let your love of romance set the stage for your Valentine's wedding and inject the theme of romantic love into every aspect of your planning...
Fun Valentines Day Sweet Treats
Children love to decorate for all holidays and they love to help out in the kitchen and make crafts. The following cover all three of these areas for some special family fun...
The Right Way to Eat for Better Health and Weight Loss
For most of your life, you probably have eaten breakfast, lunch and dinner. Now depending on your eating habits, this may be okay...but many people skip breakfast because they don't have the time, they have a semi-normal lunch and then a large dinner. Avoid this at all costs...
The Man-tidote
A guy who is interested in you will either ask for your phone number or have gained enough information about you during your conversation to get it on his own (through work, or mutual friends.) If a man hands you his card without asking for your number, simply ask him for a pen, write your number on the back of the card, and return the card to him. That way, he'll not only have your phone number, he'll know that you don't have his...
stories from a Pasadena life
The blog "stories from a Pasadena life" provides info, links, news and calendar items from the virtual streets of Pasadena, Texas. Here are the most recent entries in the blog, for your reading pleasure...